Lose the Loser - She's not really your friend

Sometimes, you need to isolate yourself. I say isolate, not to mean disappear from everything, but to remove yourself from those things that are draining you, keeping you from recharging, thereby preventing you from growing. You think those around you are your friends? Some are, but consider this: the first order of nature is survival of the fitness. Pursuit of success and all that comes with it is part of living your best life. Why would someone want you to have any accomplishment that they themselves don't have? You've heard of the Golden Rule? Do to others as you would have them do to you. There is a not-so-well-known premise I call the Golden Reality. No one wants something for someone else that they don't want for themselves first. 

I follow a general practice when simplifying the complicated. I strip the complex to its components and focus on each one-by-one to get an understanding. When I am finished analyzing each bare element, I puzzle them together, figuring how they work together. This gives me a picture of the entire machinery. People are the most complicated elements when you're underway toward accomplishment. If it's best to leave unnecessary units on the sideline when seeking your goals, most people can only distract or detour you when you're working on yourself. Whatever you want to do, there is already someone out there less qualified doing it now. Anything that puts doubt into your mind delays you in your progress. Self-doubt is fear, and fear keeps us all from moving toward our dreams. There is so much that has to be learned when trying to go to a higher level. How can someone who is still on your same level help you climb?

We learn to despise what we perceive as the unobtainable. It's a self-defense mechanism. If we can't obtain it, we tell ourselves, it must not be right for us, it's not in God's plan or worth the effort to get it, right? How many times have you said or heard a so-called friend utter this foolishness? So, if we find it difficult to want more for others than we want for ourselves and those closest to us often complicate and blur our pursuit of goals and wants, then your best friend may be your biggest impediment when trying to find a mate. Bottom line: long-term singleness is one of the most perplexing things to solve so you need all your mental and emotional bandwidth to find that most compatible person. You don't need energy directed toward someone else's pursuits, and you don't need haters throwing water on your efforts because they are too afraid to go after their own dreams. It may be time for you to isolate.